Finding the Right Jewelry
For the last few days, weeks really, I have been looking into finding the right cremation necklace for my Uncle Paris's ashes. If you wanna know the story about him you can read it here on my blog entry from this past July.
I recently asked my aunt if I could have a small amount of his ashes because it was something that I have wanted to ask her for since the day of his funeral, I just didn't know how to ask it. I finally asked for it as a birthday present. I would have really loved to get one of those diamonds made of ashes but it cost quite a bit of money for just the stone, you have to go elsewhere to have the ring actually made.
So I came across this site that offers a wide selection of variously prices cremation jewelry and urns for both humans and animals. I also found this beautiful and inexpensive cobalt blue and silver fairy necklace that I think suited his remains and would help me to feel like I have something of his and a daily item to remember him with.
Some people might think that having a gay man's remains in a fairy necklace would seem kind of disrespectful, but if you ever had a conversation with him you would know that he was never ashamed of what he was and he always used the words that ignorant people would use against him and smile about it. In my opinion, I think if he were to know what I have chosen, I think it would make him laugh.
I asked the people that matter to me what they thought and they all agree with me. I don't know if I would have changed my mind if they had thought it was wrong, because I think that I would be happier remembering him the way that will make me happy and I wouldn't change it to make other people happy.
The whole point of this post is not about my uncle but to inform people of another option in ways to remember people who have died and a way to remember people that are gone now. I just think that especially when people are cremated and it leaves some us of wanting a way to "talk" or "connect" with that person and a way to help us to deal with the death. It may sound a bit morbid to some people to have a necklace to remember them but to me personally I really want this.
I would love to hear of other people's ways to deal with death and morning of loved ones. If you care to share your thoughts I would love to hear them.